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Tuesday, November 28, 2006

Do Unto Others

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"

That's a simple thing.....but such a big thing.

For the past two weeks or so I have been watching something unfolding around my office. I am totally uninvolved but it is going on right in front of me.

I'll start by saying I'm always amazed at how people who are self absorbed think they deserve to be treated with any kind of respect. We are living in a world where more and more people think there are no consequences for their actions.

For example, when you tell someone you will do something or will take care of something or whatever, you are then expected to do it. If you don't do it, this reflects on you as a person. If you do it a lot, you loose respect and eventually loose friendships and relationships. It's that simple. There isn't a gray area here.

So let's just say someone said they would give you a ride to work. Late the night before they call and ask if you have anyone else who could give you a ride....but you already know there isn't. Besides, who would you call at 10pm to ask for a ride to work the very next morning?

Or let's say they are late picking you up because they were too self absorbed to get their ass out of bed or they took a long shower or....whatever. They say they are sorry, but you know when they say that, it's just empty words. Whatever it was that made them late was to their benefit and the fact they are there at all to pick you up should suffice. If you continue to be upset about this, they will give you the classic "Chill out, dude! It's only 25 minutes....sheesh". They have effectively diverted all this onto you by saying that. It's your issue now and if you don't just let them off the hook, you are being a prick. After all, when someone issues an apology, we are supposed to forgive them......albeit an empty apology.

You see where I'm going with this? People who only care about themselves usually make all these social and personal blunders and expect that there is no repercussion. They will suck out every drop of tolerance you have for them until you've finally had enough. Sadly, most of us seem to grow tolerance when we shouldn't and these people continue to annoy us for far too long.

I had to write all this down because it's hard to not say something.....so I'm saying it here. I don't want to get involved. My work life has mellowed out to a level that I can deal with. So I will just watch and wonder when the zero tolerance will finally happen.

And I will leave you the way I started out.....with words to live by.

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

re: "People who only care about themselves usually make all these social and personal blunders and expect that there is no repercussion"....ohh but THERE is repercussion (sp doesn't look right, but if you say so, I'll go with it :)

...a similar instance here recently...long story, I'll try to be short:
new girl hired, named "executive assistant to assisitant, while making an ass out out of yourself...more shiite on her nose than Charmin could handle" ( I think that was her title )...bottomline, she only thought about herself...she actually drove two great employees from the company with her antics..they couldn't take it anymore. I told them not to quit, because this queen will cause her own destruction, just sit back and watch her implode I pleaded with them...thankfully I had the patience and watched her dig her own hole..she didn't honor "do unto others...."

It cost her

May seem insensitive, but damn, treat me right, I'll help you out all I can....treat me like shiite, your on your own.